
There is a tomato plant growing in a crack in my patio.
It wasn’t planted there.
I didn’t water it every day or carefully prepare the soil. In fact, I almost missed it. Yet today it is four times the size of the tomato plant I lovingly nurtured in a pot.
It made me wonder how often we misunderstand what it means to help something grow.
For much of my life I have sown seeds. Sometimes literally. More often through conversations, projects, partnerships and ideas.
Like many people, I wanted to see those seeds flourish. I thought that meant finding the right place, the right conditions and the right plan. Experience has taught me something gentler. Our role is not always to decide where something should grow. Sometimes it is simply to notice where it already is.
Nature rarely asks permission. Seeds travel on the wind, in the feathers of birds, on muddy boots and in forgotten corners. Most never germinate. A few find exactly the right combination of light, moisture and opportunity. Those are often the ones that surprise us. People can be like that too.
We spend a great deal of time trying to cultivate perfect pathways through education, careers, organisations and carefully designed programmes. Those things matter. They create opportunities.
But occasionally someone flourishes because they found their own small crack in the patio.
A place that no one planned.
A chance conversation.
A volunteer session.
A walk in the woods.
A community garden.
A park bench.
An unexpected invitation.
A moment when someone simply noticed them.
Looking back over the years, I realise I have been less of a gardener than I imagined. Perhaps I have simply been a seed sower.
Or maybe just someone who clears away enough of the moss and fallen leaves for others to notice the tiny green shoot already pushing through. That thought brings me comfort. It means I don’t have to make everything happen. I don’t have to convince everyone. I don’t have to hold every project together forever. I simply have to keep creating places where life has a chance to emerge.
The remarkable thing is that the strongest seeds often find their own way. They develop deep roots because they have to. They learn to bend with the wind because no one shelters them forever. They become part of the landscape rather than an exhibit within it.
Perhaps that is true of ideas as well. We can nurture them for a while. Then we have to let them travel.
Some will disappear. Some will lie dormant for years. And some will quietly find the one small crack where they can grow into something far bigger than we ever imagined.
Maybe that is enough.
Perhaps the most generous thing we can do is not to grow people into the shape we think they should become.
Perhaps it is simply to help them find the crack in the patio where they can grow into themselves.











